Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Books, Covers and Tomatoes


Have you ever been surprised by someone in your organization? Someone who communicates to you excitement and vigor about working hard and achieving success but then quickly fades out? Many who seem to be full of potential and “sure fire” winners just...aren’t. If we as leaders aren’t careful, we can pile our eggs in these unproven baskets, create expectations around rookie excitement, and end up both disappointed in those people for not walking the walk and in ourselves for jumping on a train that hasn’t yet left the station.

On the other hand, have you ever been surprised by someone in your organization? Someone who communicates a conservative, cautious or even unwilling approach to the business but ends up shining as a star on your team? Many who appear easily counted out or unreliable can take us off guard and really flourish into high-powered contributors to our business’ bottom line. If we as leaders aren’t careful, we can overlook these hidden gems, discount their interest in contributing to the team, and end up missing an opportunity to support and grow those late bloomers.

I love to garden. I am marginal at it but improving. I have a good friend who starts heirloom tomatoes in her house in February and delivers some them to me by the beginning of April. I always ask her for a few more than I intend to plant because…I’m marginal at it. When I put them into the ground last month, I had high hopes for three of them, one was a Hail Mary, and the last one was all but dead but I had already dug the hole. As of yesterday, those last two are the biggest ones in the garden. I put them all in the same soil – and I knew the soil was good.

As leaders, it’s our job to focus on being awesome soil. Some of our leaders start big and stay big. Some start with big intentions and falter off. And some are all but dead when we get them and they end up surprising us by running head to head with the big ones. Our job is to focus on being support and giving them all the tools they need to grow. Let’s not get caught up in potential based on talk or appearance. Let’s get caught up in being awesome soil. Here are a few questions for the week…

What do your leaders need currently that you aren’t providing?



How can you tailor your approach to each of your leaders in order to support them best?



Are you allowing yourself to be hijacked by unmet expectations on unproven “baskets”?



With whom are you hesitating because they seem like a Hail Mary?



How can you redirect your energies and attention to improving yourself as nourishing soil?

Lean Forward,

Bekka

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Congruence


I struggle with something I call “Neutral Default Angry Face Syndrome”. Others have their own names for it but the basic rundown is this:

When I’m not thinking about what my face is “saying”, it tells everyone that I’m angry and unapproachable.

I am rarely angry and I would like to think I never intend to deter others from approaching me but it never fails, when I’m not thinking about what my face is saying, it says “Stay away because I hate life”.

How others feel when they look at your face is important in general, but it’s REALLY important when you’re a leader. I’m not talking about perfect hair and makeup if you’re a lady; I’m not talking about the perfect shave and the right spike-angle in your hair if you’re a gentleman. I’m talking about your countenance, your eyes, your smile. I’m talking about the things, the looks, the postures that tell people you are open or that you are closed. This is hard for me because my default facial expression communicates the opposite of my demeanor 95% of the time. It takes my INTENTION. In my musings on leadership, I come back to this word over and over and over again. Intention.

This means being aware of your surroundings. It means being aware of the messages you are sending. It means listening, tuning in, being present. It means letting your exterior be an accurate representation of your interior. There is nothing like the frustration that comes from miscommunication. For me, that frustration is at another level when miscommunication happens simply because I wasn’t intentional about the messages I sent with my face. When people perceive a closed posture, they reciprocate in that closed attitude, they shield their real thoughts, and they protect themselves and hesitate to be vulnerable because they believe you are doing the same. This does not foster an environment of teamwork or authenticity – both of which are vital to our collective success.

What is your face saying? What are your eyes saying? Are you being intentional about the messages you send? Are those messages congruent with your internal attitude? Take a few minutes to think about these questions. Take a minute to tune in and close the gap between your face and your thoughts if needed. It makes a big difference. 

Lean forward, 

Bekka


Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Eyes open

To whom can you be kind today?

That's all.

Lean forward,

Bekka